Every once in a while on the blog I make it personal and share real life stories and secret experiences that have impacted my life in a massive way.

Today is one of those days.

I’m ready to knock your socks off with a wild truth that will completely change the way you relate to your calendar and your to-do list, FOR GOOD.

Sisterhood has made me more confident, opened my heart to experiencing more love with my husband and closest girlfriends, and tripled my coaching income (in just one year).

It’s no secret I get puppy dog eyes for sisterhood. Clearly, I’m a big fan.

Recently Pam (my amazing mother in law) and I were on our way to dinner with our hubbies and she asked me how Mentor Masterclass was going.

I Invite You To Eavesdrop On Our Real Life Conversation

Pam
“How’s your business and Mentor Masterclass going?”

Jey
“It’s going soo great Pammy. Six new women joined this week! I am filled with soo much love watching the life changing moments that happen to them throughout the year. And it’s totally unique for each woman, which is honestly blowing my mind.”

Pam
“Life Changing moments huh, like what?”

Jey
“Well one of my favorite things, and the one that seems to happen for every single woman no matter what track she is on, is seeing how everything changes for them when they learn receptivity through sisterhood.”

Pam
“What is Receptivity?”

Jey
“So, I’ve personally experienced and I’ve navigated what it means to have a leader holding an overall intention for a likeminded group of women. This creates a safe space for all of the girls to give and receive in ways they never have tried before. So in Mentor Masterclass they learn what it really means to receive support.

Receptivity is allowing yourself to receive.

Which for me was one of the hardest things to learn.

It seems women who are drawn to coaching are amazing at giving soo much of their hearts to their friends and family and they SUCK at letting anyone in to truly give to them.”

(insert conversation break for the whole car to sing “Hey, Ho” by The Lumineers)

Pam
Okay, so what is receptivity?”

Jey
“When you learn to receive you increase your intuition, energy and ability to give to others.

So as the women ease into receiving support from me and their sisters, this amplifies giving in the group. When we hit that point it completely changes the way these women relate to one another. They become more confident and bold. They are able to rest and not hustle so hard. They experience learning how to ask for help from other people in their lives, the way they do with us. This is a complete game changer.

And this is what happened to me when I first found sisterhood. I finally saw the light and stopped wasting my heart and time on people who gave no true love and support back to me.

This kind of personal growth leads to breaking up with friends, family and lovers who suck the life out of you. They start spending more time with people who inspire and uplift them. So they become more active, motivated and ultimately successful.

Pam
“I’ve got lots of girlfriends and I just don’t understand what the big deal is. Are you in some kind of special sisterhood cult that I don’t know about?”.

Jey
“Well I think it has more to do with intention. Women are especially powerful and nurturing manifestors. When you direct that power and concentrate it, you tap into something really special. So there is a way to cultivate and co-create sisterhood to amplify that power with your friends toward the areas you need the most support.”

Real Sisterhood = Tangible Results

I realized talking to Pam that sisterhood itself is great, but many women have no idea how to tap into sisterhood magic.

Most of us spend our hangouts with girlfriends gossiping and recapping. When instead we could be setting intentions and actively supporting each other.

I have immersed myself in sisterhood this year and I think I’ve uncovered the difference between feeling shitty after “girls night out” and actually looking to your friendships as a source of refuel and genius creative support.

Or you try to create communities in your online coaching programs and they end up comparing themselves to each other and creating separation and scarcity mindset.

There needs to be organization and intention to truly tap into that secret feminine magic available in community. Not every time you talk to your friends but at least once a week. If you get it just right, you will experience how simple friendship becomes a life changing resource.

You can use sisterhood magic in your personal life, for business jam sessions and sprinkle it into your programs to get your clients better, faster, results.

3 Ways to Go From Gossip To Magic

1. Join A Mastermind
2. Learn How to Lead Circles
3. Create Your Own Circle

(and you should practice them in this order if you really want to see tangible results)

Watch this video for a sneak peak into my calendar and I’ll show you how I consistently prioritize all three of these actions into my daily life.

3 Resources to Create The Magical Kind Of Sisterhood Today

1. Join A Mastermind

Learn the true depths of sisterhood by experiencing it in a sacred circle where sisterhood is a core value and intentionally cultivated. Experience what it feels like to be held in a circle of sisters with someone who knows how to create this safe space. There are 8 spots open in The Sisterhood Mastermind. You can apply here now.

2. Learn How to Lead Your Clients in Circle
Once you have experienced sisterhood for yourself in a professional mastermind you can learn to harness the infinite power of circle so you can lead with playful confidence and nurturing curiosity. Learn with master circle leader, Sora Surya No.

Click here to join Sora and I for a LIVE FREE Training. Learn to lead sister circles and retreats

3. Create Your Own Circle

Finally now that you are a master you can begin to implement the magic of sisterhood into your daily life. If Actions 1 and 2 are not a realistic option right now you can do your best to cultivate sisterhood on your own.

Here are a few key tips on tapping into the magic and leading your own circles with your current girlfriends.

• Get 3-5 women in your life and agree to meet for a sister circle
• Meet one hour a week, every week on the same day, at the same time
• Circle together in the same place (Google+ or a Conference Line works best)
• Each woman has 20 minutes to share and ask for support
• The sister in focus should share what it is she desires support around and HOW she desires support. (This is very important because we never ask for support in a specific way. Maybe I just want to vent when it is my turn. Maybe I want strategic advice. Perhaps I just need you to compliment me and tell me how awesome I am because I’m feeling low)
• Every woman should be reminded to state how she desires support and the women in that circle should give her support in the way she asks for it
• Don’t get chatty in circles keep the focus on the women speaking and the support she desires
• Listen to sisters request and speak up when the communicating isn’t aligned with her desire
• Never force someone to go
• Ask “Who feels called to go first?”
• Keep equal time
• Set a phone timer with fun jingles to be the “leader” as all women in the circle should be equal (there are no leaders in circle)
• Say “I am complete” when finished with your turn
• Whoever shows up shows up (takes pressure off and relieves reschedule confusion)
• Speak up if you have limited time for that specific day so you can go first if need be
• End circle on time

Open your heart, direct your focus and your power toward fully giving and receiving.
If you keep it consistant, stay on topic, and on time, you will tap into the true magic of sisterhood.

Tip: You can schedule wine hangouts for chatty circles, these circles are a different kind of magic and both are radically important. 🙂

Now I Would Love To Receive Your Generous Advice

Have you experienced really profound shifts in your life as a result of sisterhood? Did I miss any secrets that have worked for you, that you would love to add?

Please share them in the comments section below and I’ll meet you there!

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