Why 80% of Women Believe They Are Not Good Enough

When I heard this fact, I couldn’t believe it.

More than 80% of women…

believe they’re not good enough.
feel they don’t measure up in some way.
are sure they fall short when it comes to their looks, success in business and relationships.

80% of us!

We’re all here for a reason, we’re each moving along on our journeys with perfect timing, and you are meant to make a difference in this world like only you can.

There are days that this could not feel further from the truth for me. Days I wake up and feel incomplete, crushed by the world and my own insecurities. I’ve found myself in those moments, where I believe I’m simply falling behind everyone else who appears to have it all figured out.

Why is it so easy for me to silence the inner knowing that I’m actually capable and great?

Because I’m human. And I’m pretty sure you are, too!

These ideas, that’s all they are CRAZY ideas, are ruining our lives.

Everyday we have a choice:

Will I make choices in my life from “not good enough” and “she’s better than me”?

Or will I recognize that the attitude of success is confidence?  

Let’s unpack that one a little bit:

“The Attitude of Success is Confidence.”

Especially for those of us that are choosing to walk the path of leader and becoming a life coach.

I have days, weeks and months where I truly feel not good enough.

Way more often then I would like to admit.

When we go through big life changes and let go of parts of ourselves to become someone new (like from independent CEO to mommy) these beliefs resurface. Even after years of self-discovery and coaching.

After giving birth to my little girl, my body is different. I have rolls in places I used to admire as beautiful. And while I’m learning to love my rolls and define them as perfect, time is ticking and life is happening. I catch myself using the messiness I feel while trying to balancing my time and discomfort in my body as an excuse to play small.

“I’ll film those videos for my new sales funnel when I lose the weight.”

“I’ll flirt with my husband and initiate moments of passion when I feel beautiful again.”

“I’ll wait till my baby is older to take on big projects in my business.”

Ouch.

So what I’m actually choosing is to delay growth in my business, and intimacy with my love?

And the risk on the other side of that choice is serving my inner critic over my clients, and serving fear over intimacy with my husband and most supportive partner in life.

What’s important is that I hold this as a CHOICE.

I take 100% responsibility for myself, my life and my choices. I’m not going to let these temporary beliefs stop me.

I’m NOT going to fall under the weight of useless mediocrity.

Instead I’m going to:

Film those videos for my new sales funnel NOW.

Flirt with my husband by putting his hand on my lower waist and saying, “Love this part of me with me, babe.”

And launch the biggest retreat I’ve ever led this year in a few weeks with my baby in my arms, live on the stage!

The world is full of mediocre people living in an old paradigm of working too hard, struggling to survive and diminishing their magic. And most people have the power to change that.

I love coaching tools and I incorporate them into my unique morning ritual.  

Every day I make a choice, not to choose to risk my life experience in that way.

Every day I begin with meditation. In my mind I dance with those limiting beliefs, and do everything I can to discover my version of confidence for this moment in my life.

For 15 minutes I focus on what confidence would look like today through different forms of meditation. I have crafted a unique ritual that caters to my insecurities using powerful NLP coaching techniques, and you can design your own as well by using the Morning Success Ritual here.

Then I look for who I can connect with that will help bring out confidence today.. The quickest way for me to access confidence is to hang out with women who are feeling it naturally (right now) or find other ways to bathe in it.

Sometimes I find it by calling my best friend.

Sometimes I find it by watching The Voice and witnessing singers rock out and achieve their dreams against all odds.

Sometimes I find it in myself, knowing deep within who I really am and what I’m capable of.

I remember that success and confidence is an attitude I can employ in my daily life.

So, maybe I play a role today when it’s not feeling natural and real for me to believe I’m capable.

I pull on goddess archetypes and I walk and decide the way she would pull out the best from herself and others.

And this way when I have moments where I’m nurturing my inner voice and working with deeper fears and beliefs I can still call in great success.

I can still lead other powerful women.

Because all I have to do is choose my power and it is always there.

Bring your sassy, beautiful and uniquely magical self out everyday my love. You are stardust.

And if you need a little support at this moment in your life create your morning ritual now and join “The Self-Love Revolution – How To Feel Beautiful and Confident in a Deep, Authentic Way and Create The Life You Truly Desire!” It’s happening right now.

Sister, here is the opportunity to set yourself free!

You’ll hear from 21+ experts on a mission to help you feel beautiful and confident in a deep, authentic way so you can finally create the life you truly desire and deserve! It’s called The Self-Love Revolution, I’m a featured guest speaker and expert and it’s FREE!

Surround yourself with other women choosing success through self love.

Join me here, love! And get started on crafting your own morning success ritual here.

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