Why You’re Not Wealthy Yet (Even Though You Want To Be)
I’m ready to say this out loud. And I thought who better to share it with first, than YOU? I’m ready to become a millionaire.
Within the next three years, I will hit 7 figures. I will call in this income doing work I love, taking care of myself, spending time with my family, collaborating and creating with a powerful tribe of feminine leaders and soul sisters.
Phew. That’s really uncomfortable to claim and say! I’m making peace with it. Thank you for holding space for me to share that and the vision of me receiving this uplevel and abundance.
For the past two years, since having my daughter, I’ve been in maintenance mode. I’ve been placing all my devotion toward just maintaining the success I’ve created. My values have been so set on enjoying my daughter that it felt impossible to grow or dream for anything more than I already have.
I’ve been okay with it, because I have everything I’ve dreamed of. So how could I ask for more? And in truth, I’ve been surprised by the pain and fear that comes from achieving your wildest dreams.
I never thought about how to sustain what I’ve created. What if this all goes away? What if I lose it? What if after this success my business then fails? It’s almost worse than achieving my goals in the first place. I only thought about achieving and receiving what I’ve been asking for and going after. I never thought about how scary it is to experience your dreams coming true and then the potential of losing it all.
Recently I’ve been talking a lot about life values – how to discover yours, and even how to change them.
Developing your own values system helps you get clear on who you are and what kind of life you truly desire. You’re then able to use these tools to lead your coaching clients to the same sense of clarity.
As I work through these concepts with my students in Mentor Masterclass and hear feedback from women in my tribe, there’s a theme that keeps coming up again and again.
Many women feel called to place wealth on their list of values – even placing it at the top of their life values list.
The only problem? They’re experiencing a lot of guilt and shame around doing this.
Is there any shame in having wealth be your #1 value? No!
In fact, it’s that hidden inner shame around desiring wealth that might explain why you’re not wealthy right now, even though you value it so highly.
It’s important to take the time to sort out what’s making you feel guilty about desiring wealth. Because sister, you deserve it.
Remember that values shift and change throughout your life. Just because wealth is your #1 value right now doesn’t mean that it ever come before your family, your own health or anything else.
It only means you’re excited. You believe. You recognize and feel empowered by the idea of letting wealth be your #1 value for a given period of time.
Here’s a simple yet powerful tool you can use on yourself, and with your clients: give yourself a time limit to allow wealth to be your #1 value.
Tell yourself you’ll check back in with yourself in 3 months to feel into how life is unfolding and the shifts you’re experiencing. If you decide you’d like to shift another value to the top of your list at that point, go for it.
But starting now, give yourself permission to feel proud and excited as you embrace wealth as your #1 value.
I’m terrified to say that becoming a millionaire is something I value now. And I feel safer knowing I can declare it today, hold it as a strong top value for the next 3 months, and then change my mind if I don’t like how it feels or where it’s taking me.
I’m afraid because if I say I want to be a millionaire, maybe I’ll neglect my daughter and husband, feel stressed, become annoying and lose connecting with people who love me.
For this reason, I’ve avoided aiming that high. So in many ways I can feel that I’ve resisted it as even possible. In fact, I bet even if a million dollars was right there in arms reach, I am pushing it away.
So today, and for three months, I’m shifting that. I’m letting it in. When my timer goes off, 3 months from now, I give myself permission to check in and see how I feel about this value.
Now, I can go all in, be committed and combine this value with other values like spaciousness, feminine leadership and family.
Are you going to do it? Are you willing to put wealth at the top of your list for 3 months? What possibilities can emerge from this simple and time sensitive shift? Are you still experiencing some resistance around embracing wealth as a value? Let me know in the comments below what you decide sister! And should you choose this mission of valuing wealth with an open heart, please keep me updated on your journey, as you do!
All my love,
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