Ep. 12: Why Every Woman Needs Intimate Healing Friendships With Other Women + How To Create Them with Ginny Muir
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Here in Connecticut it’s gray and cold, and I’m having a rough day (nothing major, just one of those days). Talking to one of my best friends in the whole world (who’s walking on the beach in Hawaii as she talks to me, no big deal) was just the pick-me-up I needed…
Ginny Muir is a coach, healer and guide on the path deeply devoted to consciousness, Love and Truth. She believes that as we heal ourselves, we heal the world — and I share this belief and message in my work!
Ginny was one of my very first healthy, healing friendships as I was growing in my life and on my journey to become a coach. It took intention, facing my own resistance to intimacy with other women, and stepping outside of my comfort zone to create this kind of sisterhood — I had to let go of unhealthy friendships that were holding me back to make room for feeling worthy and connected to like minded and powerful women, like Ginny.
Once upon a time I was obsessed with being everybody’s supportive best friend (which is partly why I felt called to become a coach in the first place)…
And as a result of wearing this ability like a badge of honor I didn’t have (or allow) anyone to deeply support ME. Why would I let this happen?
Why do soo many women who have natural gifts of nurturing, healing and holding space for depth give in this way, while feeling starved for this love in return?
During our walk, Ginny was transparent about her own friendship journey. She shared how she’d been chasing sisterhood, support, and true friendship for much of her adult life. Feeling alone and left out, Ginny felt she needed to pretend to be someone else so people would see her and love her.
That mindset came so naturally to Ginny, she didn’t even realize she needed to exhale in the presence of women who actually saw her. Women who got it.
I share about the pain and challenge I experienced learning to take responsibility for my role in not having friends who could really be there for me. It wasn’t easy discerning which friendships were truly toxic, and how to save the ones that were healthy through such big life and consciousness changes.
Have you ever felt that way? You’ll love today’s episode!
On today’s walk, Ginny and I will also be talking with you about:
The surprisingly negative feedback Ginny used to get from other people when she’d try to connect with them by showing her full range of emotion (we talk about this at the 11:20 point in the episode)
How the fear of loss keeps us from opening up or being honest — and how we can work through it (15:50)
Why Ginny now always shows up with her truth when she’s connecting with her friends, even when it hurts (17:50)
How it felt for me to finally experience an even energy exchange when I became friends with Ginny (19:20)
Ginny’s powerful advice for women who want to call authentic friendship and sisterhood into their lives (26:40)
What to do when your friends annoy you — because if it’s a true friendship, they will! (28:30)
When you should leave a friendship and how to do it gracefully (30:15)
Why it seems like some women just have a natural ability to be a great friend, but we can actually all learn how to do it (37:00)
“Follow your aliveness, even when it feels dangerous…” How Ginny lives out this mantra in her life and relationships (38:30)
>What Ginny and I have learned from the life-changing losses we’ve each experienced recently (you’ll hear me have an aha moment about my grief on the spot!) (39:30)
The tough (and amazing) love I received from my friends in my most recent sister circle (spoiler: they asked me if I thought I was God. Yep!) (45:00)
And so much more…
In her profound book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, hospice worker Bronnie Ware points out that, while no one ever says from their deathbed, “I wish I’d been more productive,” they do say they wish they’d spent more time with their friends.
True friends and sisters. The ones who love you for who you are and want you to be your very best self. Sisterhood, the relationships in your life that allow you to give all of your love, and that teach you to surrender into receptivity to be cared for, fiercely seen and supported in becoming the greatest version of yourself.
I talk so much about how you can cultivate sisterhood on your path to become a coach because it’s completely changed my life. Intimacy with other women, allowing high-level support, and accepting myself as a leader alongside other powerful women is what allowed me to become a feminine leader, influencer and successful business owner…
I want this for you too! I hope you’ll listen in and reflect on how you’re being called to bring sisterhood into your own life.
Come walk with us, and while we walk you’ll be opening your heart to more powerful and intimate relationships with other women too. Listen and walk now!
All my love,
P.S. At my exclusive four-day in-person event, The Captivating Feminine Leadership Retreat, in Sonoma, CA, we’ll create foundations of support and business partnerships, implement feminine rituals to experience quiet resolve, renewed confidence and creation in your successful coaching business — and that’s all just the beginning! Click here to apply today!
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