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How To Survive Success: The Difference Between The Sought Out & The Rejected Life Coach

January 14th, 2015 | no comments

Today, I wanna let you in on a little secret about success that rocked my world view once upon a time.

It was a completely transformative moment for me when I pieced together this lesson over the years. And now, I’m ready to share it with you.

Ready? Here we go:

In both of my passion industries – the acting world, and the coaching world, I’ve rubbed shoulders with some truly gifted, sought-after folks.

You know the type – the people who embody the “ultimate success story”. They started from the bottom, and now their names are in lights across the globe.

But, all too often, when I’ve had the fantastic luck to spend time with these superstars 1:1, I’ve been shocked to discover:

Success was making some of those industry powerhouses… completely miserable.

Their lifestyles were chaotic. They lack spaciousness. Self-care. True, loving connection. Plus, they can’t even look you in the eye their so anxious. Ever met someone like that?

It was a scary realization. And that dark side of success completely freaked me out, and stunted my progress.

For a long time, my fear was my shield. My excuse to stay playing small, and avoiding the spotlight in the name of my sanity.

I didn’t want to be like them, I thought. So miserable and lost, while the world puts them on a pedestal. It felt inauthentic and wrong at best, and, soul-killing at worst.

Recently, however, I started to get back on the horse, and keep exploring.

I’m aware that choosing to believe successful people suck means I will avoid success. I have big dreams and plans and I want a free and abundant life. And I know you do too.

I sought opportunities to spend time with more celebs in my field, to see if there is an expansive way to survive success.

To my surprise…I found myself completely inspired.

I finally found leaders whose success actually ended in incredible opportunity, love, and freedom. They had created a lifestyle that they’d always been dreaming of, had set boundaries, and seemed to approach everything from a deep sense of spaciousness and play.

I realized…

There are two kinds of successful life coaches and entrepreneurs.

  1. The ones who were too busy to really live, and
  2. The ones who had complete time freedom and spaciousness to create amazing lives.

So. What is it, exactly, that allows the second group to be so happy and prosperous, with grace and ease? How do you become a powerhouse whose work doesn’t run her life, but compliments it?

How do you – in essence – survive success?

And that, my beautiful friend, is what we’re diving into in today’s episode.

The truth is this:

Success originates from within, independent of external circumstances.

But that’s a loaded statement, right? I agree. So, let’s unpack it together.

Success as we know it seems to have three main stages that lead to misery.  You may find yourself existing in one of these three struggles and it’s important to identify it and call yourself out.

The Miserable Approach to Achieving Success

Stage 1: Believing that it is what we “have” that counts; believing that status depends upon visible signs of material wealth.

Stage 2: The realization that success is measured by what one does, rather than what one has. At this level on the ladder, one’s position and activities bring significant social status.

Stage 3:  Steadily, the social roles lose glamour as one achieves mastery and matures, you move into the final phase. Now it is what one has “accomplished” and experienced that is important. One is concerned only with what one has become as a result of life’s experiences.  (However, this can cause us to chase accomplishments, rather than approach them from a place of integrity, authenticity, and soulful intention.)

If you want to help yourself and your clients skip over this brutal climbing process you have to focus on the secret of the truly successful.  And it’s simple.

The secret is this.

Are you ready?

The Secret To Happy Success

Be the kind of person who has a charismatic “presence” that is the outer manifestation of the knowledge and grace of your inner power.  

Your inner power comes from choosing to be an unattached, open vessel of creative ideas and actions that serve the greater good.

And when you center your goal-making and strategy like this, people will feel the effect of your powerful attractor energy patterns that you align yourself to and reflect out.

Success comes as the automatic consequence of aligning one’s life with power energy patterns.

Because of this universal truth, success is relatively effortless and available to you now.

(Yes, right now.)

The best comparison is an electric current running through wire. The higher the power of the current, the greater the magnetic field that it generates.  And the magnetic field itself then influences everything in its presence.  That could be you, mama.  Yes, YOU.

There are very few at the top.  The world of the mediocre, however, is one of intense competition, and the bottom vibrations are over crowded.

Charismatic winners are adored and sought out. Losers have to work hard to be noticed and accepted.  #wakeupwed {Click to Tweet}

People who are loving kind and thoughtful of others have more friends than they can count. Success in every area of life is a reflex to those who are aligned with successful patterns.

The secret to surviving success is not to climb the vicious ladder friend. That will only leave you exhausted and misaligned with the idea that you have to force your way to recognition.

Slightly shift your focus to align your heart with choices and actions that represent powerful habits and the charisma of a winner.

Now, it’s time to connect with your sisters!  I want to know about your experience with success.

In the comment section below and in our Wake Up Wednesday Sisterhood FB Group, share with us a time you were trying too hard to climb the success ladder?

What happened?

Did you tell a white lie?

Snuggle up to someone you actually can’t stand? Miss your best friends wedding for a networking conference?

Did it work or not?

And, for those who are part of my mailing list tribe, this week’s audio (which I mentioned as a PDF in the video and decided I wanted to teach you voice to voice) is included in today’s blog.

It’s a fantastic audio download that I created to help you put all of this info into incredible action in a conversation model with your clients.I teach you How To Coach Your Client To Survive Success with two Coaching Conversation Models you can use with clients:

  1. Achieving Happy Success
  2. Finding Models of Excellence

Click here to download this coaching power tool. You need it in your arsenal!

Thank you, as ever, my love, for being here with me.

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Also, I’ve got another sistertribe only exclusive coming next week. If you’re not a part of the community yet and want the free gifts I only share with my tribe – you’re invited to join the sisterhood! Just enter your name and email below. 

Jey
 

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